2012-03-22 / Church


(Life Lessons from Hospice Patients)

I’ve Always Been My Own Boss

Margaret was a real hoot. In her early nineties, she weighed about 80 pounds and was as spunky as the day was long. She had a look in her eye that told you, “I’m nice most of the time, but you really don’t want to mess with me.”

Margaret could no longer walk, and spent most of her days in her chair in her room, watching TV. “I get lonely. Those characters become my friends. And they don’t talk back, either.”

Margaret never married. During one visit, she began talking about the one man in her past. “I was loved by a good man. And I loved him.” Tears came to her eyes. She looked down at her lap and said, “I’ve always been my own boss, and that’s not good.”

Most of us dream of being our own boss. We think that if we were in charge, things would be smoother, or that we would get more of what we want. I used to think that. Boy, I was wrong.

When I try to be my own boss, I fall flat on my face. That’s good. God is trying to get my attention and bring me back to reality. I’m not the man. Far from it. He’s the man, the man with the plan. And He has included me, and you, in His plan.

Margaret knew she had missed out. I don’t want to miss out any more than I already have. How about you?

“I’ve always been my own boss, and that’s not good.” Thanks, Margaret. We get it.

Gary Roe is the Chaplain of Southern Care Hospice and is interim Minister at First Baptist Church in Lexington

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