Very young children are precious and innocent, but parenting gets more difficult when children become old enough to prevaricate convincingly. When the openness of childhood begins to fade and the patina of maturity starts to be formed, children seem to sort of go inside themselves. They start to consider what they say before they say it. They start to not tell their parents everything about what is happening in their lives. It is often said they go “underground.” After all, to be successful in the adult world means to be able to hide one’s true feelings and to be able to know when to hold one’s tongue. Experts talk about how teens learn to have different faces: a face their parents see, a face their teachers and coaches see, and a face their friends see, often different faces for different sets of friends. Teens learn to hide their true selves.
Proverbs 27:5 & 6 - “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Well meant are the wounds a friend inflicts, but profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” What that means is as we mature, we also learn that those who truly love us will tell us the truth. It takes a lot of courage to love and be loved. Valentines Day with the cute little pagan cupids and the red hearts can be fun, but real love is a lot of soul searching hard work. In order to receive real love, we must be willing to receive loving truths we may not want to hear. In order to truly love another, we must be willing to risk it all by being our true self and speaking the truth in love. Love is never easy because truth is never easy. Jesus said, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life.” (John 14:6) May the Holy Spirit make its home in our hearts and set us free from sin and death, which are the work of the Father of Lies. May we follow the way, speak the truth and have life abundantly. Amen.
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